Here are some of my favorite personal development books to read either in hard copy or on Audible! Hearing or reading these books really has helped me shift my mindset from a negative one to a positive one!

MY PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT FAVORITES

1. THE 5 SECOND RULE BY MEL ROBBINS

2. THE SLIGHT EDGE BY JEFF OLSON

3. GOOD VIBES, GOOD LIFE BY VEX KING

4. SOUNDTRACKS BY JON ACUFF

5. GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD BY JENNIE ALLEN

6. THE COMPOUND EFFECT BY DARREN HARDY

7. THE BIG LEAP BY GAY HENDRICKS

8. YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL BY ROMI NEUSTADT

9. FEAR IS MY HOMEBOY BY JUDI HOLLER

10. THE BEST YES BY LYSA TERKEURST

11. THERE IS NO PLAN B FOR YOUR A GAME BY BO EASON

12. THE GREATEST YOU BY TRENT SHELTON

13. EMPTY OUT THE NEGATIVE BY JOEL OSTEEN

14. THE ROAD BACK TO YOU BY IAN MORGAN CRON

I feel so proud of myself that I feel like I could almost cry…

I did this 30 day challenge and I am so proud that I finished it! I was so nervous starting this challenge because I thought to myself…

“What will I feel like at the end?”

“Will I go crazy?”

But the reality is that I just want to keep going! I just feel so good! I got these new leggings from Pink Lily and they fit and I love them! I am sure that sounds conceited that I feel so good.

But, I think it should be the norm, to wake up and feel so good you feel like you could cry…happy tears of course.

I think you should wake up in the morning and say to yourself in the mirror…

“Girl, you look good!”

But not only look good, but feel good. Sometimes feeling good means taking care of your mental and emotional health .

Feeling good isn’t just about seeing certain numbers on the scale or wearing a certain size of pants, it’s feeling proud of my choices and know that I am honoring myself….

…not only what makes me feel good physically but mentally and emotionally as well. That to makes me feel good and I feel like we should all have that.

I spent so many years waking up with shame, guilt, beating myself up because I know I wasn’t living up to my potential.

I used to say things like…

“I am going to start tomorrow!”

“I feel guilty for what I did.”

I think that is really hard.

I think that’s harder than putting in the work, it’s heavy, really heavy to carry around with you.

I think it is harder than waking up every day and making good choices even though those good choices might feel hard. I think carrying around guilt, shame and those negative emotions are harder and it is so heavy to carry that around.

I share this because I know there’s someone else reading this blog post, that probably binged last night, or has been telling themselves that they would start since the new year, and maybe in many new years in a row.

There is someone reading this that told themselves that they would do something about their weight. That they would do something about their health and that they would do something about the way that they felt but they just haven’t found the motivation…

If you have been looking for motivation, you’ll be looking forever. I think it’s all about making a decision and honoring that decision. You’re not always going to feel like it, trust me when I say that. If you know better, do better…you deserve it.

Is it hard, yeah but what you are doing now is hard too. I just want to show someone that I have been there too and if I can do this, look at it as evidence that someone else can do it, that means you can do it too. What I want more than anything is to show women that we all deserve to feel our best. Our best might look different, but you deserve to figure out what your best looks like.

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THE SECRET TO HITTING YOUR GOAL IS TO QUIT GIVING UP SO DANG EASILY!

We give up the second we feel any pain or discomfort.

I was on a business call the other day and one of the concepts that came up was us avoiding negative emotions. It was also avoiding being uncomfortable, failure, or anything that is hard.

Avoiding your negative feelings will cost you your goals and your dreams.

In business this looks like:

• If we are afraid of being judged, we don’t put ourselves out there and we never get what we want.

• Avoiding failure means that we just don’t ever try.

• We are afraid of being overwhelmed and having too much on our plates so we just never do any of it.

What is that thing you’re avoiding? Judgement? Failure? Hard work? Discomfort?

There are going to be negative emotions and feelings in life. Figure out what you are avoiding and label it.

Is it costing you your goal?

If your goal is to lose weight, you are probably going to have to get uncomfortable. It’s probably not going to be convenient for you. It’s going to mean showing up when you are tired. It’s going to mean staying committed even when you don’t feel like it, even when you would rather do something else. By avoiding ever feeling the discomfort, lack of convenience, things like that, it costs us those goals and dreams.

I write down my intentional thoughts daily.

Something I am doing with my coaches and 1:1 life coach clients is to write down my thoughts. I ask myself..

“What do I want to feel?”

I have this thing called intentional thoughts and I write down the thoughts that are serving me and help me get to my goals. One of them is…

I am willing to feel ANY emotion to get to my goal. That means being ok with being judged, feeling nervous, feeling a bit insecure.

That might mean feeling judged. It might mean feeling embarrassed at times and feeling like a beginner. Let me tell you in this life coach realm, I am scared you know whatless. I messaged my business coach a few days ago and I told her how uncomfortable and nervous I am. She told me that it was normal to feel that way because I haven’t done something new in a while. I realized…

If I have to feel those feelings to reach more people and help more people, I am willing to feel them.

It’s been 7.5 years since I started my business so it has been a while for me to have to do new things. I am willing to feel those emotions if it means getting to my goal. You may not be starting a new business like me but maybe you are trying to lose weight. Maybe you are trying something new. May you are trying to lose weight for the millionth time when you feel like you have “failed” one thousand times before. Think about this for a minute…

Are you willing to be uncomfortable if it means hitting your goal? Or would you rather stay in your comfort zone and stay where you’re at? Change and growth aren’t always going to feel good in the moment…they’re called growing PAINS for a reason.

By you staying in your comfort zone and not feeling anything new or different, it might cost you what you want most. Ask yourself…

How bad do you want it?

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EMOTIONAL EATING IS HARD

Emotional eating is hard. It’s not easy and it might not get solved in a day because it didn’t get started in a day. But, it is something that you can overcome and you can definitely get better with. I have a lot of really great tools and strategies to help you.

EMOTIONAL EATING TOOLBOX

Negative emotions are like poison. Food is the most common drug of choice to overcome that poison. Here are some healthier ways to cope with negative emotions.

1. GO FOR A WALK.

   Getting some Vitamin D on a walk and moving your body always helps you instantly improve your mood! Grab your headphones and listen to some great music or an inspiring podcast while you walk to get your mind off the negative emotions too!

2. MEDITATE.

   It may sound strange but, even just a 10 minute meditation can relieve stress and calm you down! Learn about the UNSTRESS meditation series that is free on Beachbody On Demand!

3. CALL A FRIEND.

   When you are feeling a lot of negative emotions, calling a friend to talk it out always helps me! It is so great to get someone else’s perspective about what you are upset about! If a friend is busy and not around at the moment, journal out what you are upset about in the moment and then talk to them about what you wrote down later!

TIPS ON HOW TO OVERCOME EMOTIONAL EATING

1. IDENTIFY THE TRIGGER.

   Sometimes it’s a quick impulsive reaction to hearing bad news for yourself, family, friends or in the news. We quickly reach to food for a way to instantly find coping and sometimes it is a deep, darker underlying issue that you haven’t yet addressed. That issue could be loneliness, sadness, or things that are heavy and deep-rooted. We need emotional healing, not emotional eating. I’ve learned that through my own dark times to finally understand that. Healing can take a long time. Sometimes we think we are over something when we are really not. Emotions don’t have timetables. Sometimes it takes longer to go through those emotions so we want to make sure we are dealing with it appropriately.

   Identify what it really is that you are trying to fill because food is not going to be the thing to fill it. You are going to realize that emotional eating is never ok because when you learn the food groups, plate it, and start to eat with purpose, you will realize that there is no purpose to eating for emotional reasons. You will realize that you are not even tasting and enjoying these things when you emotionally eat. If you are not enjoying your food, then just drop the fork. Treats and sweets are meant to enhance positive times. They are not the thing to rely on to lift us up in negative, darker times.

2. CONTINUE TO TRACK YOUR MEALS EVERY DAY.

   Write down what foods you eat each day and go on the scale. Seriously, go on the scale. I am only saying it because I know for me it has been critical stopping emotional eating before it gets the best of me. Sometimes when we are going through a really hard time, we want to treat ourselves, relax a little bit, and eat for comfort. However, when you go o the scale everyday and you keep seeing it increase, you are able to stop it sooner. You realize that if you don’t stop you feel guilty and stressed because you are losing sight of your goals and what you really want to be on top of going through your hard time.

3. KEEP EVERYTHING OOSOOM, OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND.

   If you are going through a hard time or you are stressed at work, don’t start bringing in all of your trigger foods and sweets in the office or your house to make everyone “feel better.” You will still have that deadline or hard things are still happening and the treats are not helping. Out of sight, out of mind is a great way to make sure you don’t emotionally eat. There are so many ways you can get healing and get positive vibes when everything else feels out of your control and negative.

4. ASK FOR SUPPORT FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY.

   Lean on a coach like me, or your friends and family. We are all going through this together. Take walks, snuggle your pet, hug a family member, journaling, listening to upbeat music. All of these things can make us feel better.

5. USE EXERCISE TO RELIEVE STRESS.

   Exercise is the golden standard way to relieve stress. I don’t know how I would’ve gotten through some of my hardest times without my workouts. It’s been the best for me in feeling longer, leaner, and stronger in my mind and my body so I can better tackle everything else out there. When you sweat and you exercise, you actually release serotonin and endorphins. It’s really important when you are going through hard times to do whatever it takes to feel good in a positive way.

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GENERAL TIPS FOR EATING OUT

You can totally stay on track with your weight loss goals even if you are going to a restaurant or ordering takeout. Here are some general tips to follow when you are eating out:

1. DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR CUSTOMIZATIONS.

   I know you may feel like you are being the “difficult” one at the table when you ask for customizations, but that is your waiter or waitresses job. They are used to it due to food allergies and sensitivities so order what you need and don’t feel bad about it.

2. DON’T FEEL LIKE YOU NEED TO CLEAR YOUR PLATE.

   Restaurant/ takeout portions are always much BIGGER than an actual portion is. Honor your fullness and box up whatever you don’t finish for later!

3. LOOK AT THE MENU BEFORE YOU EVEN GET TO THE RESTAURANT AND DECIDE WHAT YOU ARE ORDERING.

   Looking at the menu before you even get to the restaurant is a great way to alleviate stress of trying to decide once you get there. You will probably want to talk to the people you are going out with and if you are trying to figure out what is the healthiest option for you there, you might get stressed out and pick the wrong option. Always have a plan and be prepared so you can enjoy your meal and your company!

4. IF YOU ARE GOING TO DRINK ALCOHOL, BE SURE TO DRINK A GLASS OF WATER BETWEEN DRINKS.

   It’s totally fine if you want to drink alcohol at a restaurant or at home with your take-out. Just be sure to drink a glass of water between drinks as it will keep you hydrated and will slow you down from having more than 2 drinks.

I am going to give you options you can choose at each meal from many different cuisines so you can stay on track and achieve your goals no matter what you are eating!

EATING OUT OR GETTING TAKEOUT FROM A DINER

BREAKFAST

• Option:

  • You could order an omelette and go light on the hash browns and the bread.

  • You could also ask for fruit instead of the bread.

  • You could swap out eggs for egg whites and add veggies to your omelette.

  • When you are eating out, the portions are very big. Eat until you are full and then boxing the rest to take home.

• Your Breakfast Should Be:

  • 50% Protein

  • 50% Carbohydrates

LUNCH

• Salads: Cobb or Cesar

  • Veggies: the base of the salad.

  • Protein: grilled fish, salmon, shrimp, chicken steak, tuna.

  • Carbohydrate: corn on the cob, baked potato, bean soup.

  • Ask for any dressings or condiments on the side.

• Sandwich, Wrap or Burger

  • Remove the top slice of bread. An open face is a happy face!

  • Get a salad or a vegetable based soup on the side.

  • Ask for any dressings or condiments on the side.

DINNER

• Make sure your plate is 50% veggies!

• Meat: chicken, fish, beef. Make sure you get any of the meats grilled, baked or roasted.

EATING OUT OR GETTING TAKEOUT FROM A SALAD BAR

LUNCH

• 50% Veggies: Always start with arugula, mixed greens, romaine lettuce.

• 25% Protein: flaked tuna, chopped eggs, shrimp, chicken, whatever you like.

• 25% Carbohydrate: chopped beans, chopped fruit, chickpeas, red kidney beans, etc.

• Ask for dressing on the side.

EATING OUT OR GETTING TAKEOUT FROM AN ITALIAN RESTAURANT

LUNCH

• Option 1:

  • Veggies: Antipasto Salad: you can ask them to top it over arugula.

  • Protein: Get your protein from the meat from the antipasto.

  • Carbohydrate: Ask for minestrone soup.

  • Ask for dressing on the side.

• Option 2:

  • You could also get beet or arugula salads.

  • Ask for goat cheese on the side.

  • Add Italian marinated shrimp, salmon, chicken.

DINNER

• Option 1:

  • Ask for a cup of marinara sauce on the side when you get takeout.

  • Veggies: tuscan roasted vegetables, broccoli, spinach.

  • Protein: grilled, roasted or baked. Any protein you want.

• Option 2:

  • Chicken Paillard

  • Get double veggies for sides : tuscan roasted vegetables, broccoli, spinach.

EATING OUT OR GETTING TAKEOUT FROM A JAPANESE RESTAURANT

LUNCH

• Carbohydrates:

  • Get brown rice.

  • If you want a sushi roll, ask them to go light on the rice.

• Protein:

  • Make sure there is protein in the sushi roll so yellow tail, salmon, tuna, etc.

• Veggies:

  • Sunomono salad, field green salad with carrot miso ginger dressing, seaweed salad.

  • Broth-based soups filled with veggies.

  • Ask for spicy mayo or dressings on the side.

• Avoid rolls that called “tornado”, “tsunami” and “tempura” as they are usually deep-fried.

DINNER

• Option 1:

  • Take the same sushi roll listed above as lunch and wrap it in cucumber or seaweed it is called a “Naruto” roll at a lot of places.

• Option 2:

  • Miso-glazed eggplant with roasted asparagus

EATING OUT OR GETTING TAKEOUT FROM A CHINESE RESTAURANT

LUNCH

• Veggies + Protein : Order steamed veggies and protein and ask for sauce on the side at Chinese restaurants

  • Protein: Shrimp, chicken, meat or fish.

• Carbohydrates: Brown rice but only eat half of the rice as it is 2 servings of rice and save it for leftovers.

DINNER

• Veggies + Protein : Order steamed veggies and protein and ask for sauce on the side at Chinese restaurants

  • Protein: Shrimp, chicken, meat or fish

• Order a broth-based soup like the won ton, egg drop and sweet and sour soups.

  • Keep in mind these soups are high in salt. So if you have them you may see an increase in weight the next day.

  • That is water retention and will correct itself in a few days as long as you drink a lot of water.

EATING OUT OR GETTING TAKEOUT FROM A MEXICAN RESTAURANT

LUNCH

• There are so many places now that are “make your own Mexican meal” where you choose your base, you choose your protein and you choose your toppings.

• Veggies should always be your base of your meal.

  • Sometimes, they put things in burritos so you can ask them for a bowl of lettuce as your base.

• Protein: Tofu, chicken, shrimp, or pulled pork that is usually already seasoned.

• Carbohydrates: Pinto beans and corn are great to add to your lunch.

• Toppings like pico de gallo, cilantro and limes are freebies so have as much as you want on that!

  • For toppings like guacamole, cheese and sour cream, choose which one you want.

• Fajitas are also a great option to order! Ask for double protein or double veggies.

DINNER

• Taco Salad

  • Ask for them not to bring the taco shell and swap it for more lettuce instead.

  • This gives you plenty of veggies and proteins you need for dinner!

EATING OUT OR GETTING TAKEOUT FROM A STEAKHOUSE & SEAFOOD RESTAURANT

LUNCH + DINNER

• Veggies:

  • Roasted brussels sprouts, sauted spinach, fire roasted artichoke and tomatoes, salads and soups.

  • Ask them if they can make these veggies with less oil if possible.

• Protein:

  • Seared salmon, lobster, crab, shrimp, steak, chicken, turkey etc.

  • Ask for grilled, steamed, roasted proteins.

  • If it says sauted or pan-fried, ask your waiter or on the phone what they mean by that.

  • Make sure you get sauces on the side.

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