When I first started my journey to 80 pound weightloss, I battled the negative self-talk constantly.

“I wish I could just eat whatever I want, whenever I wanted.”

“Why is this so hard for me?”

“It’s not like the effort is getting me anywhere.”

But those are just harmless sentences, right? It’s just a quick vent session for my frustrations, and then it’s back to the grind.

Years ago, these thoughts constantly tempted me to halt all of the progress I had made toward my weight-loss goals. What I didn’t realize at the time was just how much power those words could have over my life if I allowed them to.

Repeating those negative thoughts over and over during my weightloss journey drove an invisible wedge between the woman I was and the woman I was becoming.

Our Words Matter More Than We Think

I don’t know the exact moment I realized how much those thoughts had a direct effect on my journey. But I know I started to realize the positive difference small, impactful changes within those sentences could make.

I focused so much on thoughts like “I can’t eat that” or “I can’t skip that workout today” that I developed an immense amount of restriction and pressure for myself.

So somewhere along the way, I started to change every thought (even the ones I didn’t realize were harmful at the time), with different words.

“I can’t eat that” became “I don’t eat that.”
“I can’t skip that workout today” became “I don’t skip my workouts.”

“I can’t” felt like a punishment, but “I don’t” became a choice. It gave me agency over the situation at hand.

I had to stop the thoughts linking me to the woman I wanted to leave behind and start speaking life into the woman I was becoming. That woman didn’t eat the food that made her feel yucky the next day, and that woman didn’t skip the workouts she knew would make her stronger.

Giving Yourself Agency

Reframing that negative self-talk allowed me to lean more into the version of myself I was becoming.

The version I wanted to be was strong, competent, a learner, resilient, and capable of accepting change within the ebbs and flows of life.

But until I could fully embrace her, I was always going to battle with the internal frustrations that giving up and giving in was the easier scenario.

Instead of giving in to the guilt and frustration those negative thoughts would create, I changed the way I talked to myself and about myself.

Grieving the Old You

It’s true. It is easier said than done. I had many moments of missing my comfort zone and slipping back into the negativity that I knew deep down would only hold me back.

But fighting for the new version of me was worth every single moment of doubt, guilt, grief, and frustration.

I chose kindness and to trust myself — through my actions and in my words.

So start today. Choose the version of yourself that is resilient.

The version that shows up even when it feels impossible, and the one who treats herself with grace and kindness.

Rome was not built in a day. But it was built.

You can do the hard things.

Start by choosing the right words.

​The First Step to the Next Version of You

I created the Fit Mom Blueprint for transparency. I wanted other women who have found themselves in my shoes to see their weightloss journey through a different lense.

The Fit Mom Blueprint is built from the exact process I followed to lose 80 pounds and keep it off.

This blueprint contains the mindset shifts, habits, and structure I followed during my weightloss journey that allowed me to move through life’s setbacks instead of letting them take hold.

This blueprint was meant to have something to come back to when life happens, the progress feels slow, or your brain starts looking for an exit altogether.

If you’re ready to reframe the thoughts that keep you from losing weight, The Fit Mom Blueprint gives you a clear, realistic approach that you can use to face these moments for the rest of your life.

You can learn more about The Fit Mom Blueprint by clicking here.